The law of attraction does not necessarily work in China, unless a Chinese girl thinks that is a wad of cash bulging in your pants pocket.
Chinese dating culture is 95% games.
The Red Line Personality in China is real.
The Traditional Chinese Girl
In China, as a foreigner looking for love, you will spend a long time to catch someone. But when you finally catch the kind of girl that likes a foreigner back, they tend to stay with you forever.
I like the chase, but hate the games that Chinese girls play. Each new conversation with a potential Chinese long-term partner reinforces the fact that they are racist, backward-thinking traditional Chinese girls.
I have come to accept that most Chinese girls in mainland China are conservative (保守). Regardless of how into a foreigner they seem to be, the Chinese girls pretend to be interested, add my WeChat (微信), but never talk to me again.
For a Western male used to frank and honest females, I get tired of playing those games in China.
The Open-Minded Chinese Girl
I already know a few open and sophisticated Chinese girls who have seen the world beyond China. They talk freely to me. They are open, make themselves available, and like to have sex.
Those Chinese girls are suggestive of sex. They openly offer sex to me, because they are used to foreigners. They like foreigners, like how a person prefers cappuccino over latte, or chocolates over lollies. The choice is hard-wired in their minds. That obviously is fortunate for Westerners in China, and for me.
However, for every one Chinese girl that willingly falls into the hands of Western males and becomes their sex buddy (炮友), nine hundred and ninety nine Chinese girls that I have approached in my time in China cannot fathom different cultures.
Adapting To Chinese Dating Scene
Therefore, it is hard to know whether a Chinese girl is traditional to the bone, or whether that hard stare means she is into you.
Regardless, I have changed the chase around to be realistic with the dating scene in China.
Rather than pander to the nine hundred and ninety nine traditional Chinese girls by being nice and likeable, now I really don’t care too much about the girls that I pick up in China. I am rude to all of them now. I became the bad boy.
I picked up another girl recently, and my approach towards her was crude. I don’t bother to show interest in Chinese girls beyond the pick up, because the chances are they will flake on me anyway. The ones who like me back will make themselves known.
That is just how I decided to do things now, because I know in China the red line personality is real.
A Western male and their cultural and dating habits could barely cut through to a traditional Chinese girl with no experience in your way of life. Either you spend time studying Chinese culture and habits learning how to find common ground with 99% of Chinese women, or stick to the open-minded Chinese girls that want to be penetrated by Western values.
Diary Of A Mad Chaos is a daily diary written from March 1996 until today, of which individual books and book series have been created, namely “The Lost Years” an exploration of young, entwined love, the “Wubao In China (猎艳奇缘)” book series which provides an extensive comparative analysis of the cultural differences between Eastern and Western societies, and the book titled “Foreigner (华人)” an exploration of race relations in Australia.
