The Facts With Buddhism
With Buddhism, I started to understand that Buddhism deals in facts. Everything else is changeable.
I started to think about this because I was thinking about life and death, and having kids, and also my dad. I felt bad because my dad said his feet hurt a lot after he had a stroke. I think about him a lot when I am in China.
So, it made me think…
Everything in our life changes from the moment we are born until the moment we die. In between all that time when we live, we have to try to embrace happiness. But ultimately, we all die. So, what is life?
What Is Life?
The facts about life are that we die, and that we live, and everything in between doesn’t matter too much.
So, nothing that happens in life is ever fixed. Buildings fall, people die, people live, fashion changes, places change, worlds change, civilizations change, love changes, feelings change, everything changes.
I guess the only things that do not change, are memories.
When you remember something in life that you have done, that is with you forever. You have done it. Those are the things that become permanent, unchangeable, because they are a fact. So, Buddhism deals in facts.
The fact is that I am going to die, and I am alive, and I was given life because of my parents.
When you think about it, before you give life to another human being, you really have to consider that. You have to consider that you are committing this new being, this new life form, to death one day. Before death, you are committing them to some form of happiness.
The Highest Form Of Happiness
What is happiness? If you are rich in this world, then you can get some form of happiness. But when you really think about it, what is the highest point of happiness that one can achieve in life? Because feelings are very ordinary (一般). Then, what is the highest feeling one can achieve?
Going parachuting and falling out the sky is one of the highest experiences that you can have.
When I think about life in that way, it feels very trivial, the level of happiness that you can achieve in life. You can experience love, and love can give you lots of different feelings, and happiness. Also, when you break up, there comes pain.
Love – in this lifetime anyway – is only between two people. People get jealous, and so you are unable to fulfil your highest level of love, because of jealousy, because of feelings. So, life becomes very limiting.
Life and Birth
When I think about all that in perspective, if you have kids, you are limiting yourself. I don’t see it as a limit, but it is indeed a limit.
On top of that, if I have children then that will condemn the people that my wife gives birth to. It will condemn them to a life where they have to search for happiness, and then encounter eventual death.
When I think about my wife giving birth to kids in that context, I don’t really want to have kids, because it takes a lot of responsibility to give somebody life, and then to let them live that life knowing that they will die, and disappointing them at the end of it all.
The Pursuit Of Memories
In summary, I have been given life. What do you do with life? Is happiness really what you should be searching for, because happiness is fickle.
I actually believe that while happiness is a good pursuit, things that are constant, things that are facts, they should also be searched for.
Memories, I think they are important. The right memories and experiences to keep in your mind, they are all very important. Happiness, if you can find that in your memories, that is also great too.
The Cup Of Inevitability
It is also interesting, the gift of life.
If you knew that you were going to die, and everything else after your death is not going to matter, then would you want to be born?
In an analogy, if I gave you a cup of wine, but I told you, “if you drink this wine, you are going to get poisoned and you will die,” are you still going to drink that wine, and cherish the taste of that wine? Do people still want to drink the wine? Do people still want to be born? That is the question.
People don’t have that choice after they are born, so I believe that choice should be the responsibility of the parents to decide, “Do I want to give the child the cup of inevitability?”
That is one thing that was making me think for the last couple of days.
Diary Of A Mad Chaos is a daily diary written from March 1996 until 2018, of which individual books and book series have been created, namely “The Lost Years” an exploration of young, entwined love, the “Wubao In China (猎艳奇缘)” book series which provides an extensive comparative analysis of the cultural differences between Eastern and Western societies, and the book titled “Foreigner (华人)” an exploration of race relations in Australia.