Cultural Differences – Chinese Male Dominance

On the walk to Yuexiu District (越秀区), I was walking up Dade Road (大德路) and saw a really hot Chinese girl standing across the street, looking across the street. The Chinese girl wasn’t hot per se, but she had a beautifully done-up face, and a black dress on.  I thought,

“Wow, she is really sexy.  She is ripe to cross the street for to talk to her.”

So, I walked across the street.  Once across the road I asked,

“Hi, how are you?  Do you speak English?”

In Chinese Mandarin, she answered,

“没有.  No.”

I took her appearance in.  She had her makeup done up, wearing red lipstick, a short girl with nice milky white legs.

While I switched to speak in Chinese, at one stage I could tell this Chinese girl was curious with me, smiling, but also inhibited around me.

I asked her, “我迷路了。我想问路。说实话，我从街对面看见你。我想来到这里跟你聊天.  I am trying to get to this road.  To tell you the truth, I saw you from across the street.  I wanted to come over and talk to you.”

Then she didn’t really have a reaction.  She looked over her shoulder.  I realized,

“You are waiting for a guy.”

The Chinese guy comes.  He said,

“他要干嘛?”

Without even looking at him, I said,

“谢谢你,”  and kept walking.

I think she said to him,

“He was asking me how to find the road.”

I gave the Chinese girl one final glance, before she turned around and started walking with the Chinese boy.

I turned one more time around and saw the guy put his hand all the way around her shoulder.  This is what Chinese guys in mainland China do to stamp their authority.  But he was a little kid.

Chinese male dominance is a cultural difference compared to dating rituals in Western cultures. Westerners are more gentle with their partners. We don’t need to suffocate our girlfriends to emphasize to other alpha males that the girl is my property.